Pregnancy

http://www.thefrisky.com/post/246-girl-talk-what-were-really-talking-about-with-my-uterus/

It's definitely worth reading, but if you don't want to... it's about what people feel okay saying to or asking pregnant women.

I'll admit, before being pregnant, I was one of those annoying people who asked the inappropriate questions in this article.  Now, I understand they are questions you should NEVER ask unless you have an EXTREMELY close relationship with the woman.  Otherwise, you'll be on her shit list for a long time.

I like the point that is made, being pregnant is the public illustration of your sex life.  I mean, really, do you wear a shirt that says "I got laid" everytime you have sex with your significant other?  Can you imagine being forced to wear that shirt for 9 months afterwards (okay, so more like 6 for most people)?  

Being a MOM has made the questions even worse... to go with "were you trying" comes "were they conceived naturally" or "aren't you excited" comes "you're really going to have your hands full, huh?"  For me, no matter how I answered the MOM only questions made me feel guilty...  yes, they were conceived naturally -- I'm sorry you're having trouble and I got lucky the first time around, but I'm so thrilled to be having these babies... yes, I'm going to have my hands full and I'm absolutely petrified -- does that make me a bad mommy-to-be?

Bottom line, though you can clearly see what that lady was up to, you don't need to point it out.  The growing belly, trouble walking, morning sickness, and inability to sleep remind her of that all the time.  And, lets be honest, you don't want to piss a pregnant women off... with those hormones raging, who knows what's possible?

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All my topics have been about babies... I think I need a new hobby, any suggestions?

Being someone's mommy

So, 16 months ago, my life changed, I get that.  But did I give up my identity too?  More often than not anymore if someone who knows me is introducing me to someone who doesn't one of the first things used to describe me is, "and she has twins."  I get it, I'm 28 and I have twins, people think that's interesting and different.  But is that really all I am anymore?  I love my girls, I wouldn't give them up for all the world and I love being their mom, but that's not all I am.  I'm a smart, talented, friendly, nice, well-educated (I have two master's degrees after all) person AND I'm a good mom and wife.  Now, in a different time and place, I would give up everything to be their mom, and I would never look back. Being a parent is, in my opinion, the most difficult job a person could ever have.   But I don't think that there is ever a single thing that describes a person.  There are far too many facets of life for that.